Up Close & Personal: Charly's Story
Those who meet me experience me as engaging, vivacious, compassionate and insightful. Yet few realize that by age 19, I had endured violent forms of prejudice, two incidences of rape and was struggling with an eating disorder. Consequently it would be another seven years of repressing my traumas and gaining nearly 50 pounds before I would finally begin to emerge from my self imposed prison…
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Prejudice: I've been highly intuitive since I was a child. The product of an interracial couple, prejudice was amongst my earliest experiences. My father’s family disowned him after he married my mother, thus my maternal grandmother was the only extended family I knew growing up. Born in Boston, Massachusetts, we lived in a rough area known as Mission Hill before moving to the nearby suburb of Westford. It was there that the common bouts with prejudice turned violent after disapproving neighbors hatefully captured and poisoned our beloved family dog. Shortly after, my family moved to the town of Franklin where once again we sustained verbal threats and hate crimes that resulted in damage to our personal property. This time, my father sent a strong message that we were staying and would not tolerate physical attacks on our property.
Eating Disorder, Weight battles & Rape: My father is an extraordinarily gifted guitarist and musician while my mom possesses an equally compelling singing voice. Both found solace in music, which created a natural bridge to the world of dance where I found my peace. My weight battle began the moment I hit puberty at which time my desire to retain my figure gave rise to an eating disorder. By the time I skipped off to college, I was a yo-yo dieting pro. Accepted early decision to Clark University, it was during my sophomore year that I was first raped. I became incredibly paranoid and depressed after the perpetrator, a fellow student, threatened me not to tell. Frozen with fear and shame, I took a leave of absence at the end of the semester. However, it was several months later during a night of underage drinking in a Cape Cod nightclub that my world was forever changed after suffering another much more violent rape.
“The shame of being raped and sodomized was just too much to bear. In an effort to have control over my trauma, I gave it control over my entire life. I believed I couldn't be the person I'd intended to be or achieve the goals I'd once dreamed of, so I repressed the trauma along with suppressing myself, my interests and my dreams for years.” —Charly
Healing & Teaching: I repressed my trauma for nearly seven years until my 45-50 pound weight loss gave rise to post traumatic stress episodes, which released my memories and prompted me to finally live my truth. Relief was coupled with a sense of dread as my re-emergence of self revealed that every aspect of my life was a lie. Determined to rebuild an authentic life as quickly as possible, I refused traditional forms of therapy in favor of using my intuitive gifts and innate strategic skills to “own” my experiences, and use them to empower me from within. I then became the strategic alternative for others that I couldn’t find.
Divorce & Empowerment: Now a cutting edge Personal Strategist, I'm a champion for recycling your experiences into tools that propel your success as evidenced by my latest book Thank Goodness You Dumped His Ass—Use Those Mr. Wrongs to Lead You Straight to Mr. Right. I use the same lessons I learned from love and divorce to provide women with a straightforward, business strategy that empowers them to own who they are in and out of the dating process, and successfully attract the relationships they crave. ‘Put You First’ is the message I shares, and after transforming virtually every aspect of my life, I teach directly from personal experience. We are united by our challenges as well as our joys. I've learned how to make the imperfections of my life serve me perfectly and I'm passionate about empowering others to do the same.
