Stanger Schtick Recycled Part II
I’m back with part two of the Stanger Schtick Recycled and if you missed the first tip, check out part one. Television is largely about entertainment, and BRAVO in particular has been a stand out in bridging the gap between tireless dramatic tirades and salacious fun intertwined with some great take away content we might even be able to use. Goodness knows I kept Million Dollar Decorators on my TIVO for months after the season finale just so I could revisit their fabulous creations and apply the numerous tips for restyling spaces in my own home. Designing tips with a dash of dramatic personalities who possess actual skill and creative passion for what they do…???!!! —Now that’s the kind of entertainment ratio that I call Reality Bliss…!
As the author of the savvy business handbook Thank Goodness You Dumped His Ass, if you guessed that the dating and relationship realm is my favorite, you're right! I LOVE seeing people correct the glitches that are messing up their results and attract the relationships they crave. Of course I love people, which prompts me to pose the question:
Shouldn’t someone who supposedly lives for love, actually like people?
Well, despite my personal penchant for strategically romping through this juicy realm, the Stanger Schtick started making me sick quite some time ago. Was it because her advice is more likely to leave you single or marrying the wrong partner too soon than lead you to relationship bliss? Or was it the fact that she’s so rude, crude and cruel to those she supposedly wants to help find love? I could go on and on, but the bottom line is… not all network chosen experts are created equal or able to deliver the kind of take away content you should apply in your life. This is probably why viewers are now calling for Bravo to take Patti away.
Here’s my point. What you watch can surreptitiously have a huge impact on what you think and do. In the relationship realm I spend most of my time helping people throw out bad advice and beliefs that are sabotaging their relationships. As long as you know why you’re watching and who you’re watching, you’ll still come out ahead. For this reason I’m horrified by the conflicting and sometimes baseless advice that Patti Stanger coughs up. I’m a firm believer in walking your talk, and for someone whose career seems to be more television than actual match making, where would Patti be if she followed her own advice? Oops, I guess we already know that. At this point since people everywhere are calling for Patti and her show to be taken away… by BRAVO, why not recycle her rants into something you can use as you contemplate, choose and cultivate your interpersonal and business relationships.
Charlyism Tip #2 Make sure the people you follow are walking their talk.
Again Patti gives us such a fantastic example of what I mean. One of her guidelines: Break up with a man who hasn’t given you a ring within a year. Really Patti? Because despite not making it to the altar, you hung in there for a ring for far longer than a year with your previous beloved didn't you? Honestly, is our divorce rate in this country not high enough to suggest that we all refrain from judging the value or relevance of a potential partner by whether or not he delivers a ring within 12 months? If a man is taking you as well as your relationship seriously, he may want or need more time. Heck you may want to take more time —and isn’t that better than a quick proposal that inevitably implodes? The fact that Patti's advice is almost always detrimental to your success goes without saying, but the point is this:
When considering anyone’s advice, look at what they’re doing and how that advice is showing up in their lives before you follow it.
Walking your own talk is crucial. Experiencing the results of what you create is the number one way to spot where you need to make corrections to your perspective so you get what you want. Ding, ding, ding, ding, ding —it 's also a major time & money saver for improving your stats in life & love! Thanks for the lessons Patti ; )
